“We saw each other a few times after [we broke up]. I took the breakup really hard, as you can imagine from the scene of me crying and stuff,” Marissa, 32, told Glamour in an interview published on Wednesday, October 23. “It took me probably six months to get back on track and to really start to move on.”
She added, “I saw him a few times when I was in D.C., and there was one time where we talked one day for like, 8 and a half [or] 9 hours on the phone, and I thought we were gonna get back together after that.”
Marissa and Ramses, 35, got engaged during Love Is Blind season 7, which was filmed in October 2023 and began airing on Netflix earlier this month. Marissa and Ramses seemed to have an effortless connection — until a few post-pod differences of opinion. Ramses had a strong distaste for military veterans like Marissa, as well as shot down the possibility of having sex with a condom or while she was on her period.
By episode 11, Ramses expressed his hesitancy to walk down the aisle. The next episode began with Ramses calling off their wedding plans. Marissa visibly sobbed as Ramses broke up with her, claiming she felt blindsided.
After Marissa started to move on, she and Ramses began regularly speaking via phone calls.
“[In] February or March, I did ask him if he wanted to get back together,” Marissa said. “I’m not really ashamed to say that because I’m someone who’s like, ‘If you feel it, you feel it, like, what’s the worst that can happen?’ And he’s like, ‘Nah.’ So after that, we just stopped communication.”
Marissa further claimed to the outlet that she still doesn’t have proper clarity into what transpired to make Ramses abruptly call off their wedding.
“Throughout the whole breakup — which made it worse — he couldn’t really give me a reason. To this day, I don’t know if he really has a good reason,” Marissa told Glamour. “I think he has tried to pinpoint certain things, like that I listened to podcasts in the morning and I sing in the shower type of stuff. But at the time of the breakup, he was just like, ‘I don’t feel at peace anymore, and I feel like our energies off and I’m gonna hurt you in five years, but I love you and want to be with you, but this is moving too fast.’”
She also tried to come up with a middle ground that wouldn’t end in total heartbreak.
“I’m like, ‘OK, well, let’s just not move fast. You stay in DC, I stay in Baltimore. But stay together,’” Marissa, who is currently in law school, recalled to the magazine. “And he was like, ‘No.’ And that’s a very hard thing to grasp: How do you supposedly love this person so so much, and they don’t even want to be with you? Then I’m thinking, it’s me, because he’s saying it’s my energy.”
She added, “I offered to not get married. We can stay engaged, or we can do everything on our own timeline. We don’t have to move in immediately. That was never the plan anyway. We don’t have to be engaged to date. It was a hard no and that is what really tore me up.”
Ramses shooting Marissa’s reconciliation attempts down point-blank made her “really question everything [she] ever believed in.”
Marissa and Ramses will come face-to-face again at the Love Is Blind reunion, which drops on Netflix Wednesday, October 30, at 9 p.m. ET.
Love Is Blind is currently streaming on Netflix.