The Washington, D.C.-based lawyer also opened up about the negative comments her mom has received from fans and asked people to be “more kind”
Warning: this story contains spoilers from the season 7 finale of Love Is Blind.
Yes, Marissa George’s mom agrees: Ramses Prashad was far from the one.
The Love Is Blind season 7 star, 32, shared what her mother thought of her ex-fiancé off camera since their emotional breakup on the season 7 finale of the hit Netflix show.
“She felt that he was very different from who I’ve dated before and she felt like ultimately, he would never be able to keep up with my lifestyle because he didn’t have a [college] degree,” she told Glamour in a new interview, adding how her mother put “a lot of emphasis” on pursuing higher education.
“She said that she felt like he had a superiority complex,” Marissa explained. “She tried to give him a chance. She had been nice to him off camera, but once they had the conversation surrounding his ex-wife, they don’t show it but she literally cuts him off and says, ‘I’m done listening to what you have to say.'”
The Washington D.C.-based lawyer recalled how Ramses “talked about [his divorce]” in a way that made her mom recoil and think, “Don’t explain marriage or divorce to me.”
“That came across harsh,” she acknowledged of their first meeting. “She’s just trying to say he was talking down to her. And she’s saying, ‘I’m done with this conversation, you’re trying make yourself sound like a saint.'”
Marissa said her mother “saw through that” and “also saw that I would have to carry him in the relationship” emotionally and be the one to “take care of him.”
At the end of the day, Marissa admitted that she “agreed” that Ramses seemed to talk down on her throughout their time on the series. “As I watch it, I’m like, ‘God, Marissa, he’s not listening to anything you’re saying,'” she continued. “He’s like, ‘No one put a gun to your head when you joined [the military],’ and I was like, ‘Did you not hear anything I just said?'”
Marissa claimed there was an air of “moral superiority” that Ramses seemed to hold over their conversations, especially when it came to controversial topics like the military, sex and politics.
“It’s like, ‘Okay, I don’t have a degree, I don’t have this, I don’t have that, but I am more progressive than you, and I care more about the world than you, so therefore I’m gonna say it in small ways to make you feel that way,'” she explained, adding that she only noticed Ramses’ behavior while watching the show back.
She confessed that she didn’t believe “he’s as feminist as he thinks he is,” and at times, Ramses can be “a lot more selfish than he realizes.” Despite this, she said she still thinks her ex is “a good person.”
“I just don’t think he realizes how he comes across,” she said. “He’s like, ‘I hear what you’re saying, but I don’t really care,’ because no matter how feminist a man is going to be, he’s still going to have a blind spot because he’s a man at the end of the day.”
As for her mother, Marissa confessed that she needed “therapy” but thought that fans’ reactions to her comments on the show — at one point, her mom threatened Ramses that she would “cut [his] balls off” if he hurt Marissa — were unfair and asked people for grace.
“I think my mom and I have a very interesting relationship, because she was 17 or 18 when she had me,” she explained. “I know from therapy that a lot of my people-pleasing tendencies come from my mom trying to mold me to not fall on the same path as her.”
Marissa continued, “I think people just need to be a little bit more kind. Being a parent is hard and she’s not perfect, and she has a lot of work to do on herself. But that doesn’t mean she freaking hates her children because she called me a bitch on TV. It’s crazy, people are like, ‘Oh my God, I would never call someone out of their name.’ We all have, come on.”
Marissa and Ramses had one of the more emotional journeys on the show, characterized by many deep conversations that typically weren’t showcased on Love Is Blind before. After getting engaged in the pods and enjoying their getaway in Mexico, things got real when they returned to the real world, with their differing beliefs and perspectives rather clear to family and friends.
Their relationship hit a breaking point at the end of episode 11, where Ramses and Marissa had a conversation about their future and Ramses’ concerns about getting married again. Ultimately, his fear that he would hurt Marissa became his main worry and he decided that they were better going their separate ways.
“How could I feel so sure, and you not?” Marissa asked. “I want someone to be sure about me.”
But despite applying for a marriage license together and being just days away from their wedding, Ramses called it off, leaving Marissa heartbroken and sobbing on the floor.
“This is the worst day of my life,” Marissa cried in the heart-wrenching scene that concluded in the beginning of episode 12, before taking off her ring and leaving it on the carpet.
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Love Is Blind season 7 is available to stream on Netflix, and the season 7 reunion will drop Wednesday, Oct. 30 at 9 p.m. ET/6 p.m. PT.