“I was not in a good place, and I was saying hurtful things,” Hannah Jiles says. “Is it right? No, but that’s truly how I felt.”
Warning: This article contains spoilers from Love Is Blind season 7, episodes 1-11.
The Love Is Blind season 7 couples are dropping like flies.
In the new batch of episodes (now streaming on Netflix), multiple couples broke up before even making it to next week’s finale weddings: Hannah Jiles and Nick Dorka as well as Alex Byrd and Tim Godbee. In the case of Hannah and Nick, things went south after Hannah’s friends didn’t like Nick, and she decided that instead of trying on wedding dresses, she needed to break up with him. After pointing out his five flaws that she said he hadn’t worked on since he discovered her list in Mexico, she told him they aren’t going to get married.
“The breakup [in the episode] was very similar to what had happened,” Hannah tells Entertainment Weekly. “Obviously, there’s cuts and stuff, and there’s way more to the conversation than what’s going to be shown on TV, but that’s how we broke up. I think Nick said a little bit more too than what it shows, but it’s a pretty good portrayal of it.”
While it appears as if Hannah’s friends not liking Nick was the reason she ended things, she explains there isn’t an “exact pinpoint” of the moment she decided to break up with him.
“I think that the longer we were together, the more we realized how inherently different each of us were,” she says. “My friends didn’t really like him that much, we were getting married very soon, and I had to make a decision, and I just didn’t see us working out long-term. I don’t think either of us wanted to be in that relationship. It wasn’t just me. So I was like, ‘We just should end this before we’re putting on wedding dresses and things.'”
It all happened as fast as it seems in episode 11. Nick met Hannah’s friends, and then he went to a wedding — solo — that night. The next day was the wedding dress and tux appointments, and Hannah says Nick was on his way to his tux fitting when she called him to let him know she wasn’t going to the wedding dress shop.
“I just knew that morning. I woke up, and I just didn’t feel right,” she adds. “Trying on a wedding dress was such an important thing, and if I wasn’t sure, I didn’t want to do that. I gave him a call out of respect, because I didn’t want him to show up and I didn’t show up, so I called him and let him know, ‘I don’t think I’m going to try on wedding dresses. We just need to have a conversation. It’s just not looking good.'”
Hannah was shocked at the way he reacted to her call. “He was just really stressed out about how it would look, and the way he acted on the phone call really solidified for me that we shouldn’t be together,” she says. “Because he was trying to almost produce it, and that just made me feel uncomfortable. So I just realized that we shouldn’t be together.”
According to Hannah, Nick was very worried about how he would look when they had their on-camera breakup, whereas she wasn’t thinking about that at all.
“He wanted it to be a good breakup where he looked good and I didn’t say anything mean to him, and he wanted to make sure I didn’t say certain things or bring up anything in conversations,” she says. “Listen, a lot of things I do are wrong. I have a lot of flaws. But it’s generally who I am, and I am not going to change our break up just to make you look good if that’s not generally how I feel.”
After their breakup, Nick said in his confessional that he wanted to make it all the way to the finale weddings. But Hannah doesn’t think he would have said yes at the altar if they did. “I feel like he would’ve said no, but we’ll never know, I guess,” she says.
After watching herself in the episodes, Hannah understands all the criticism she’s received for being “brutally honest,” a.k.a. downright mean, to Nick — like saying he’s not her equal in any way.
“It’s the truth, but it’s really, really harsh, and a lot of it does not need to be said,” Hannah admits. “I was just bringing that up to make him understand, because a lot of times in our relationship, I did realize how brutal I was being, and it was rough, but I was just asking for something in return, and I feel like I never got any feedback, ever. It was just me always asking questions, and he’s never asked me any questions at all.”
Hannah says her “frustration” would get the best of her, and that’s why she kept pushing him in all their serious conversations. “I would get so angry, and I was saying all these things of why I just feel like I’m superior than him, which I’m not,” she says. “But that’s how I was feeling in the moment because he didn’t understand where I was coming from. I was not in a good place, and I was saying hurtful things. That’s how I felt in that moment. Is it right? No, but that’s truly how I felt.”
She laughs now at how it looks like she was basically interviewing and grilling Nick in every conversation. “I was looking for a response from him, and I just kept asking more and more questions because he doesn’t have an answer,” she says. “So I have to ask 20 questions to get what I’m trying to get from him.”
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But she’s learned a valuable lesson from seeing herself in those moments. “I’ve taken away that it’s all about delivery. I might be honest and I might say exactly what’s with my mind, but it’s all about how you deliver it,” Hannah says. “You can say it in a lot kinder and friendlier way. I really need to work on it. And my brutal honesty doesn’t really need to be there all the time. It was wrong, but I truly think that we brought out the worst in one another. It was just not my best self. That doesn’t excuse it, but I’m trying to work on being kinder with my words and my delivery.”
Looking back on her Love Is Blind experience, she doesn’t regret going on the show despite how it all ended for her. “I didn’t find my Prince Charming, I didn’t get married, and that’s okay. I really came out with a lot of friendships, and I learned a lot about myself,” she says. “I didn’t find love, but I found self-love, so I’m really glad that I did the experiment because I learned a lot about who I am, what I want, and things that are good and things that are bad about me. If I didn’t have love, at least I got that.”
The Love Is Blind season 7 finale drops Wednesday, Oct. 23 on Netflix.